With age comes wisdom and consideration. All ego and arrogance is expected to be set aside and the social being emerges to embrace the co-operative way of living. But then, in case anything goes wrong or something is misunderstood along the way the ripple effect can be quite unpredictable. Friends and memories bear witness to the process of growth and development that adolescents undergo as they turn into young adults. Friends, contacts, social relations, genuine relations...the list is endless in this neo age. Now what might happen in the absence of such witnesses?
I pride myself for being a people watcher and keen observer of everything that happens around me and humans in particular are interesting to watch especially over a long period of time. It’s always amusing to watch a lone guy waiting for a friend who is part of and in conversation with a larger group of friends. It’s the power of speech vested in us that makes the difference maybe. Lol this post might be similar to a previous blog entry titled “Life and Times” but then…I never tire of writing about people’s lives and activities. Memories can be manifold….from direct recollection by a sharp mind to photographs and written entries. In my case, whenever a direct recollection is narrated to me, (invariably) I do not recall it myself and (occasionally but not always) left in shock that such a thing had happened. That’s when the real point of helplessness and depression kicks in usually and frustration also chips in for what its worth.
Once mistrust and foreboding has developed towards a person I doubt if it can ever be changed. Then there’s the decisive resoluteness and a tinge of ego also involved in that right which makes it all the more difficult to forgive and forget. The mediator who comes in the way is misunderstood at from both ends for attempting a patch up. Haha...easy to advise but very tough to follow. I was talking to this friend of mine regarding their relationship with someone and I had to ask about the other person involved. The reply I got was a smart “hmm sorry man I don’t really trust anyone to say it out loud”. This was followed by an explanation as to why the trust isn’t present in general itself. That’s when it did strike me…did I make a terrible mistake now by asking something which is really none of my business?? Nice. So again the concept of level of attachment and bonding comes into play. In this use and throw world I guess everything goes the same way only. Its also nice when crossing paths with someone known and no conversation occurs at all. In case I do decide to stop the person and ask “hey why are you silently walking past?” the reply would definitely be “well you could have spoken first right??” Of course.
Money is still a trump card though in some cases….your judged by the thickness of your wallet. Well alright I have a half dozen decent watches, a swanky cell phone etc etc etc…my wallet is always empty anyway. Screw me then am off the guest list. Thank you very much. Haha btw…there’s this new movie that’s up for download now – How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. Should be a treat to watch I guess.
I pride myself for being a people watcher and keen observer of everything that happens around me and humans in particular are interesting to watch especially over a long period of time. It’s always amusing to watch a lone guy waiting for a friend who is part of and in conversation with a larger group of friends. It’s the power of speech vested in us that makes the difference maybe. Lol this post might be similar to a previous blog entry titled “Life and Times” but then…I never tire of writing about people’s lives and activities. Memories can be manifold….from direct recollection by a sharp mind to photographs and written entries. In my case, whenever a direct recollection is narrated to me, (invariably) I do not recall it myself and (occasionally but not always) left in shock that such a thing had happened. That’s when the real point of helplessness and depression kicks in usually and frustration also chips in for what its worth.
Once mistrust and foreboding has developed towards a person I doubt if it can ever be changed. Then there’s the decisive resoluteness and a tinge of ego also involved in that right which makes it all the more difficult to forgive and forget. The mediator who comes in the way is misunderstood at from both ends for attempting a patch up. Haha...easy to advise but very tough to follow. I was talking to this friend of mine regarding their relationship with someone and I had to ask about the other person involved. The reply I got was a smart “hmm sorry man I don’t really trust anyone to say it out loud”. This was followed by an explanation as to why the trust isn’t present in general itself. That’s when it did strike me…did I make a terrible mistake now by asking something which is really none of my business?? Nice. So again the concept of level of attachment and bonding comes into play. In this use and throw world I guess everything goes the same way only. Its also nice when crossing paths with someone known and no conversation occurs at all. In case I do decide to stop the person and ask “hey why are you silently walking past?” the reply would definitely be “well you could have spoken first right??” Of course.
Money is still a trump card though in some cases….your judged by the thickness of your wallet. Well alright I have a half dozen decent watches, a swanky cell phone etc etc etc…my wallet is always empty anyway. Screw me then am off the guest list. Thank you very much. Haha btw…there’s this new movie that’s up for download now – How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. Should be a treat to watch I guess.
2 comments:
a frank blog on relationships written with a lot of ppl and incidents in mind.. but true enough that the trust is diminished once a friend loses another and though a reunion occurs, there is always a wind of caution that flows through whenever a word is spoken even during normal conversations which is the most difficult part because both are human beings and nobody is god to forgive and forget and their ego's play a vital part as well.. and secondly people being judged by the amount of money they possess is a good point and also a word of caution for where this present generation is moving towards...
am still working on breaking the "trust vs mistrust" barrier that does exist between the few friends i have. even humans can forgive and forget da...its not such a noble deed that u declare as a godly quality and such actions will have an impact on everyone around them for sure.
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